At the mercy of the U.S. government – due to visa issues for the groom – and with only 90 days to plan and execute their wedding, Kathleen and Charles had to quickly decide what was most important to them and what details weren’t worth their time. The couple chose a short yet traditional ceremony, but opted to get creative with the rest of their wedding planning. They enlisted the help of their family and friends to make the details of their day extra special, and despite the short time frame, the newlyweds couldn’t have been happier with the results of their gorgeous plantation wedding!

Special thanks to Mick Schulte for sharing all the beautiful photos of Kathleen and Charles’s day with us!

Kathleen, 29 & Charles, 26

Georgetown County, SC

Wedding Date: March 28, 2015

Number of Guests: 60

Wedding Cost: $10,000

Wedding Ceremony Location: Hopsewee Plantation

Wedding Reception Location: Hopsewee Plantation Tea Room

Why did you have an intimate wedding? 

When planning our wedding, we quickly aligned on how we envisioned our day; we wanted something elegant, yet laid-back. What was most important to us was to spend time with all of the people we love as we transitioned to becoming a new family. I felt that the wedding was going to be a great opportunity for us to communicate our values as a couple. We wanted to show that the relationships in our lives are more important to us than material objects, overspending, and the undue stress that can come with planning a wedding. An intimate wedding let us focus on what was most important, prevented us from being bogged down in too many details, let us spend time with everyone we loved….and actually eat at (and enjoy) our own reception!

What are some of the challenges that you faced planning an intimate wedding? 

My husband is Canadian, so when we got his fiancé visa, we were given exactly 90 days to plan and execute our wedding. While we were engaged, we couldn’t pick a date because we were at the mercy of the U.S. government to tell us when we could marry. We tried to explain early on to family members that the wedding was going to be planned quickly and we wouldn’t know a lot of details in advance. We also didn’t know if we were going to be able to plan a full-blown wedding in that time, or if we’d only be able to go to the magistrate and have a reception later to celebrate.  Since we had a narrow time frame, we had to focus right away on what we weren’t willing to compromise on and immediately let go of details that weren’t worth agonizing over. Communicating our reasons for electing to do some things at the wedding over others was a challenge, but ultimately at the end of the day everyone enjoyed themselves and so many new friendships blossomed from that weekend.

Was it difficult to pare down the guest list? 

Actually, it wasn’t. Early in our engagement we set that precedence of “we have no idea when it will happen,” so everyone was really understanding and eager to jump in and help when the time came. His family is small and we both have only a few close-knit friends, so the guest list was right at what we were comfortable with. We wanted to make sure to include everyone, even if they couldn’t be there, so after the wedding we sent announcements with links to our website so we could share our photos and keep everyone we cared about in the loop.

Did you have any ‘issues’ with the small guest list from friends and family? If so, how did you address them?

There were no major issues, but you do need to take the time to explain one-on-one with your family and friends what you are doing and why you are doing it. Once they understand where you’re coming from, they are more likely to be on board with your decisions.

What were the highlights of the ceremony?

Our ceremony was short, simple, and traditional. We went that route as a nod to those in the family that preferred a more religious ceremony. The ceremony was one of the aspects that we had no notions about before the planning process, so we were happy to go with something that would make everyone more comfortable, especially since we did so many other non-traditional things that day. The best part of the ceremony was when the best man dropped the rings (after saying all day that he wouldn’t lose them); everyone laughed and that broke the tension, making the rest of the ceremony relaxed. Afterwards, I got to recreate a photo with my dad that we originally took at his wedding when I was only 8 years old. That moment was great because it really reminded me of how much time has passed and that my husband and I are entering a new, exciting adventure in our lives.

What were the highlights of the reception?

Watching everyone get to know each other! It was amazing to see our friends and family becomes friends with one another. Also, my aunt did the flowers and decorations for both the ceremony and reception. The personal touches she brought to the reception were so wonderful and we received so many compliments on our decor. Everyone kept asking which vendor I used for the flowers and they were so impressed that it was a family member who was responsible for everything.

What was the best thing about having an intimate wedding?

So many people told me that it was “our day,” but for us we knew that it wasn’t just our day, but a day for our family and friends as well. My family is so incredibly talented and we wanted to get everyone involved in some way with the wedding. My husband designed our website, invitations, and programs. My mom did the calligraphy on the invitations, and my aunt, of course, did the decorations. The size of the wedding and the time-frame of our planning gave us the opportunity to involve our family in the details that we otherwise might not have had time for. We saw having an intimate wedding as a creative challenge and our entire family was right there with us to take it all in stride.

What advice do you have for couples who are considering an intimate wedding?

It was stressful to realize that there aren’t many resources for people who are planning an intimate wedding in just a few short months. Personally, I struggled with finding an off-the-rack wedding dress that I was excited about, but eventually I found something I loved. I’m optimistic that more resources will be available in the future for couples with time or budget restrictions, but just be prepared to work hard and have a few freak-out moments while you’re figuring it out. If budget, time, and the size of the wedding are all concerns, you really do have to get creative in the planning process and look at non-standard wedding options to make your day work. People may say “why are you doing it that way?” throughout the process, but just keep moving forward and make the decision that feels right for you. Luckily today there is more support than ever for couples who have a time crunch or strict budget limitations (or both). Make sure you take a moment to step back from the planning process, take it all in, and enjoy yourself!

Vendors: 

Photography: Mick Schulte Photography 

Decor, Flowers, and Sign: made by Bride’s Aunt

Wedding Cake: Incredible Edibles

Invitations and Website: Tall Oak Design 

Rentals: EventWorks 

Officiant: Vann Cochran 

Groom’s Suit: Express 

Bride’s Dress: Watters from BHLDN 

Bride’s Ring: Gold Adore 

Bride and Bridesmaid’s Hair Pins: Luxe Buffalo

Hair: Rocio Arrieta

Makeup: The bride

With the abundance of love songs out there, hit the right note with a wedding inspired by music. From sheet music to song lyrics, there are so many ways to incorporate some musical touches into your day. Perfect for couples with a background or career in music, or simply for those looking for some interesting decor ideas. We’ve got 10 music ideas to inspire you.

1. Sheet Music

For a unique way to introduce musical elements into your wedding, use sheet music to wrap your favors. This couple used sheet music to wrap book favors.

2. Note Cake Topper 

Turn cupcakes into a wedding-worthy dessert by adding a metallic note cake topper. A great addition to a dessert table.

3. Guitar Boutonniere 

Whether your guy is in the band or not, a guitar boutonniere makes for a stand-out alternative to traditional flowers.

4. Lyric Chair Backs 

Framed love quotes or song lyrics are stunning decor ideas. They can be placed around your venue or as the highlight of your table settings. Another idea is to create some chalkboard signs with your favorite lyrics and add to the back of your chairs.

 5. Instrument Decor 

Another way to embrace this theme is by decorating your ceremony space with instruments. If you own some antiques these will look amazing too, and create a real talking point. They also make for some pretty lovely photo props too.

6. Vinyl Centerpiece

A DIY project to keep in mind for an amazing centerpiece is a combination of fresh blooms and vinyl records. If you’re having a retro affair then these will be ideal.

7. Live Band

For an outdoor ceremony, what could be more romantic than a live band playing as you walk down the aisle?

8. Musical Cufflinks

Cufflinks don’t have to be in silver or gold. Accessories like these can work to add some individuality to the groom’s attire.

9. Guestbook of Lyrics 

Why have your guests sign a book, when they can leave lyrics? This is such a beautiful idea that is not only a twist on a traditional idea but will also create a special memento of the day.

10. Musical Runner

We’ve seen floral and fabric runners, so naturally paper is the next step. Especially, if it comes in the form of sheet music. Up the romance by using music from your first dance (if you have one). Matching calligraphy place cards will finish the look.

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Whether you’re looking for the laid-back and moody ambiance of a jazz club or the romantic mood of a Parisian boulevard under the stars, Gallery J near Orlando, Florida just might be the perfect location for your intimate wedding. This unique venue has two stunning studios for you to hold your wedding ceremony and reception.

The Gallery J studio is decorated in the style of a jazz club – complete with a baby grand piano and picturesque brick walls that make it an ideal photography backdrop. One of the highlights of this studio is the twinkling ceiling lights that mimic the look of a starry sky. A seriously romantic detail that will wow your guests, not to mention alleviate any weather worries that you would have in an outdoor space. There’s also a loft area with high top tables that make it an ideal space for a cocktail reception.

Gallery J offers fabulous one-of-a-kind amenities, like a beautiful tiered fountain in the entryway, custom lighting options and a loft perfect for stealing a quiet moment as newlyweds.  Gallery J even offers dancing lessons that are sure to make you feel at ease during your first dance as a new Mr. and Mrs.

If this sounds like your kind of venue, visit Gallery J online for more info.

Photos: Mark Dickinson

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If you’re thinking of hosting a bridal shower for yourself or for a loved one, we’ve found 10 great recipe ideas to inspire you. You can create the menu of your choice when you make the dishes yourself, especially for a small gathering. 

Beverages

1. Citrus, Cucumber and Mint Water 

Infuse your water with orange, lemon, cucumber and mint for some at-home spa water.

2. Blackberry-Thyme Gin Fizz

You can make the blackberry-thyme syrup for this cocktail in advance, and also use it in other recipes.

3. Mango Berry Lime Smoothie 

Forget about smoothies only belonging in the post-workout realm. They’re a tasty non-alcoholic beverage for a warm day.

Appetizers 

4. Banh Mi Spring Rolls 

Light and refreshing finger foods are a great way to offer your guests some variety. These spring rolls are easy to make and when served with a dip, they’re perfect for a bridal shower.

5. Smoky Baba Ghanoush with Sumac 

A platter of dips, charcuterie, cheese and fruits with warm bread is the way to go. This eggplant based dip is full of flavor

6. Mango and Jalapeño Ceviche 

On a summer’s day this ceviche will be a winner. Fresh fish and tangy flavors served up with ice-cold beer and tortilla chips.

Sweet Treats

7. Strawberry Vanilla Cake 

Cake should be on the menu at every event. This strawberry and vanilla cake is a delicious treat that you can also give out as favors. The fresh strawberries look stunning as a decoration too.

8. Salted Caramel Cupcakes

Cupcakes are definitely not over, just look at these beauties! If there’s ever a time to indulge, then this is it. A salted caramel cupcake alongside some serious wedding talk is a necessity.

9. Crème Brûlée Donuts 

Combining two amazing things, these donuts will be a crowd-pleaser. Once you’ve made these you’ll be making donuts constantly. Sorry, not sorry.

10. Banana Pudding Cheesecake Blondies 

A large, messy bowl of banana pudding is always a good idea. If you want to switch things up for a bridal shower, then make these pudding-cheesecake-blondie hybrids.

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Having met as wedding professionals, Luke and Amber both love the big celebrations that come with tying the knot. For their own wedding day, however, they felt that something small and intimate would be far more in line with their priorities and personalities. Viewing marriage as the joining of two families, the couple chose to invite only their immediate family to share in their ceremony, and opted to celebrate with the rest of their family and friends at three different intimate receptions spread over several weeks.

With photography being of the utmost importance to Luke and Amber (she’s a professional wedding photographer), the newlyweds were lucky enough to have their friend and fellow photographer Kristen Marie on hand to capture some truly stunning photographs as they wandered through the foggy forests and along the rocky shores of Orcas Island as husband and wife. We think you’ll agree that the results are absolutely breathtaking!

Amber, 31 & Luke,26

Olga, Orcas Island, WA

Wedding Date: September 26, 2014

Number of Guests: 13 at the ceremony, 40 guests for each of the three receptions

Wedding Cost: $7,400 for the ceremony portion, $4,300 for the three receptions

Wedding Ceremony Location: Bayside Cottages on Orcas Island, WA

Wedding Reception Location: Homes in Seattle, Redmond, and Puyallup, Washington

Why did you have an intimate wedding?

Going into our relationship, we both viewed marriage as the joining of our two families. Luke and I met while both working a wedding (I’m a wedding photographer and he was a part of a videographer team covering the same wedding) so we’ve both experienced a lot of weddings over the years. While I do love the big celebration aspect of weddings, our personalities told us that we wanted to focus on the covenant and bond of marriage with just our families for the ceremony itself. Having an intimate wedding meant that we could focus on our family and do things the way we wanted as well. We wanted it to be an experience for everyone attending, not just ourselves.

What are some of the challenges that you faced planning an intimate wedding?

The biggest challenge we faced was our reception. At first we wanted to have one big party with 120 guests, but after looking at the cost and having a slight planning meltdown, we decided to have three small parties with around 40 guests each, at three different houses, over a three week span. We thought that it would mean more face time with everyone, but by the end our immune systems were shot. While I did love seeing friends and family and actually being able to spend time with them, if I were to do it all over again, I’d find a way to have just one scaled back party.

Was it difficult to pare down the guest list?

Since we knew that we wanted only immediate family at the ceremony, it made paring down the guest list relatively easy. We just had to stick to our guns to keep our original vision our reality.

Did you have any ‘issues’ with the small guest list from friends and family? If so, how did you address them?

There were a couple of close people in our lives who were hurt that they could not be at the actual ceremony. We addressed them by letting them know that they are important to us and that we loved them, but we were focused on our family. We did, however, include them in all of the festivities leading up to the ceremony and the receptions. While I wouldn’t change a thing about how we had our ceremony, it was really hard on me at first to deal with those reactions.

What were the highlights of the ceremony?

Truly there were so many! If I had to narrow it down they would include:

1. Walking down the stairs, which was our “aisle”, with my dad, and joking about not falling. He said, “if one of us goes down, we both go down.” Once we hit the main floor the gravity of the day hit me: my dad was walking me down the aisle. We both started crying. When we saw Luke, he was standing at the altar crying too.

2. Going out to take photos with Kristen, our amazingly talented photographer and friend, was a highlight for sure. Luke and I are both passionate about photography, so it was a big part of our wedding day. I think we spent about three hours with her running around the Island and disappearing to the shore. During our portrait time, we turned the bend heading up to Mt. Constitution and I remember the three of us collectively freaking out about the fog. It was gorgeous! While we were driving along the road we saw a deep green patch of forest and Kristen asked us if we’d be willing to get out for a while. Instantly we said yes and trekked through the dripping trees, laughing, hugging, and soaking in day.

3. Right after the ceremony, Luke and I walked upstairs, hugged each other, and ugly cried hard for a few minutes. All of the emotions leading up to that moment just came out. We were happy, we were exhausted, and we were finally married.

What were the highlights of the reception?

For the small reception on Orcas Island after our ceremony, my dad cooked appetizers and dinner for us all. I cherish memories of sitting in the kitchen with a glass of wine chatting while my dad cooks – and that’s what I really wanted on my wedding day. He delivered too! It was also wonderful watching my new in-laws working together with my family to make everything happen. My mother-in-law also made our delicious chocolate coconut cake the morning of our ceremony.

Our First Dance is something I will always cherish as well. We danced to ‘Beggar In The Morning’ by The Barr Brothers – which holds special meaning to us – under string lights on the quiet back deck. My shoes were wet from taking a misstep into the ocean an hour before, so I was barefoot for the dance. It was one of those “I can’t believe we pulled this day off” moments, and also signified the end of our wedding day.

What was the best thing about having an intimate wedding?

The best thing about having an intimate wedding for us was being able to spend time with our families and have little to no pressure (besides the normal emotions) during the day. Also, it meant that we had a ton of photos of our families hanging out and working together. My sister was a huge help during the day – she made my bouquet, kept everything running, and was the unsung hero behind the scenes. My dad cooked, my mom set tables, my mother-in-law baked, my father-in-law helped string lights, my grandmother arranged flowers. It was truly a team effort, which made it even more special to us.

What advice do you have for couples who are considering an intimate wedding?

There are times when it’s okay to be selfish – and your wedding is one of those occasions. With that being said, you also need to remember that it is also a big day for your parents and loved ones. Including them in some way makes the day even more special and personal.

Vendors:

Photographer: Kristen Marie Photography 

Ceremony Location and Accommodations: Bayside Cottages 

Dress: BHLDN

Make Up & Hair: Shyn of Pacific Brides 

Suit: Custom made by Men’s Warehouse

Flowers: We bought a wildflower bucket from Peace & Plenty Flower Farm on Orcas Island and my sister assembled the bouquet, boutonniere and vases.